Wednesday, April 4, 2007

I lost a sister,her friend.

On my way home from work yesterday, my sister called, she was sobbing, I couldn't hear a thing,so I prayed her be still but couldn't comprehend.
My sis, is very mischievous you see,but I knew this was no prank,it was April 3rd and she had already pulled her April fool stunt on me;So I asked her to be calm,dropped the phone and called her back after a few minutes. She is still sobbing,but now I could hear the words,her ex-school buddy was dead.
Dead? Her childhood friend of 12 years. At first she thought it was a joke,when she was told on sunday then she was called again yesterday. I couldn't torture her with the "wh" questons, I just consoled her the best way I could and had my mom speak to her again,when I got home.

MY Sister's friend.
She was slim,crazy&fun,but was born with a hole in her heart; she couldn't do too much work because of this,but she was fun. I have never met one so young that lived her life without restrain and so much fun.

We lived in the same neighbourhood,she and my sis attended the same secondary school, for a long time they were inseperable.

I remember

When she hid her "bad" report card in my sister's cupboard,mom found it and took it straight to her place.

I remember
When my sis was ill for 2 weeks and couldn't go to school,her friend had told everyone in school my sister had travelled. She came home the evening before my sister was to resume school, to plan her "return". I laughed as I watched them plan,luckily my brother just sent stuff from"jand"(London),so it all worked well with the plan.They went shopping in supermarket that evening for different types of chocolate and candies.

I remember
The funny games they told me they played on their way back from school.

I remember
Her shivering into our house,she had malaria and her mom wasn't home,mum had to treat her,she slept in our house till her mom returned.

I remember
Overhearing,she and sis,scheming to go for a party immadiately after school.

I remember
As they put themselves in trouble and bailed eachother out,if they were stuck,I came to the rescue.

I remember
When she fainted at the carnival,I thought that was "it". I was mad with joy when she woke up smiling.

I remember
As mom,scolded her and sis,over their studies.

I remember it all,the memories are vivid.

She slumped.

I can't believe she's gone,why didn't she go for an operation?
If her parents had said something,we would have raised money,in school,in church,in the estate.
We would have done something.
I'm hurt,I'm sorry if I just sound... hurt.
I don't blame anyone it is too late now,
So what if she had done the operation and was hit by a car,
Died in her sleep,no more what ifs.
She's gone it is hard to accept it but it is true.
I know you are at peace,where you are.
Thank God for the memories we shared.
I know you'll rest in peace,know this too, I LOVE YOU and I'll miss you like you,crazy.


londonnaijachic said...

May her soul RIP and may God console her family, your sister and you too and everyone who knew her and loved her, Very sad. Take care my darling!

adumaadan - Blacktinkerbell said...

I'm so sorry about your sis' friend. She's gone to a better place and there's no need wondering what might have been. Take care of you and your sis.

Jola Naibi said...

Sending you and yours tons of prayers and positive thoughts...this must be a difficult time for all of you and I pray that the Lord sends you enough peace and strength to bear your loss. May her soul rest in perfect peace in the arms of our Lord and creator.

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry...

omohemi Benson said...

Thank you for your kinds words of comfort. I am humbled and grateful.

omohemi Benson said...

Thank you for your kinds words of comfort. I am humbled and grateful.

Jaycee said...

O my goodness. May her soul rest in peace. God knows, God hears, and God heals...we can only understand so much, you know?

LondonBuki said...

May her soul rest in perfect peace... thank God for the life she lived... for the memories...for who she was in her loved ones' lives.

I pray the Almighty comforts you all during these sad times. May He give you all reasons to smile and celebrate the life she lived.

May her soul rest in perfect peace... AMEN!

laspapi said...

I'm sorry to hear this.

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bimbylads said...

sorry about ur loss dear.. May God grant her family and you who are are friends the fortitude to bear the loss.. (huggs)

Daddy's Girl said...

So sorry for your loss. May God grant all her loved ones strength.

exschoolnerd said...

I am so sorry bout ur sisters friend..May her soul rest in peace...take heart omo..

Vera Ezimora said...

Aww, Omohemi I'm sorry for your loss. I'm soooo sorry. May her soul rest in perfect peace

Simply Gorgeous said...

I am so sorry to hear about your loss, Omohemi. How are you feeling now, babe?

May she rest in perfect peace...

4wardnfiaca said...

sorry about ur loss. May she sleep with the lord, and may the Good Lord give her family the strength to deal with their loss

omohemi Benson said...

Thanks for your words of comfort.

Mrs Somebody said...

Sorry over the loss of your sister's friend.May her gentle soul rest in perfect and lasting peace.

Tell your sister to take heart and be strong.

Anonymous said...

so sorry to hear this.. happy easter angel

wienna said...

Sorry for d loss o. Take heart and may she rest in d bosom of d Lord.

TaureanMinx said...

I'm sorry Omohemi. May her soul rest in peace. Thanks for all the comments :)

Waffarian said...

Life! Her soul is in peace now, Omohemi. Hope your sister is okay. Take care. Lots of love, hugs and kisses!

omohemi Benson said...

Thanks,I will.

Thanks,Happy easter in arrears.


You are welcome.

My sister is recovering slowly,
I will send her all your love,hugs&kisses. Thank you.

Anonymous said...

awwww im sorry for ur loss, may God grant you the fortitude to bear it, sounds like a great gurl tho, wow, this life mehn, u just neva knowwwwww

Anonymous said...

may her soul rest in peace

Naijalove said...

Take heart my dear, it shll be well